I had this great friend, we had a connection that defied time. We both realized it and this friendship blossomed into a great friendship, totally platonic. She had met her twin soul and was having negative energy problems with it. I was trying to help her work through these. She would not tell me his name but told me about his status on MySpace. Her friends were hidden but I know how to unhide friends and did so. I felt terrible for having done this so I told her about it. She now has said the a line has been crossed and she doesn't want to be friends anymore. Is what I did really that bad to destroy a friendship over? Are we actually soulmates as we both have said before and if so will this relationship work itself out or is it destined to be a painful memory? Thanks for your insight. -- Mike

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Dear Mike,

The question that is more important than the one regarding the future of your relationship with your friend is the one that concerns your own motivations for ceasing to be her friend by violating a boundary of privacy and respect and doing something dishonest.

The tendency to do or try to do something that is not quite right and to permit yourself this 'lapse' in moral responsibility is something that is grounded in your soul's history. It is not something to be taken lightly. Nor is it something to be dismissed. This is the time for purification that we are in, and so all hidden motives that depart from love will come to the surface.

It is good that you recognized your action as a mistake, but your willingness to use deceitful means in pursuit of your own ends speaks to an underlying issue concerning power and the need to take things into your own hands rather than wait for information (or other things you may wish for) to be given.

The orientation to seize control, dear one, is a defense against feelings of helplessness. In the seizing of control and in doing things your own way without regard for another, there is an underlying fear of not being able to have what you want and having to feel powerless and helpless as a result. This is the reason that many people seek control and do not wait for something to come or to be given in the proper way.

You have a developing relationship with your own spirit that is taking you to new places in your consciousness, and sensitivity to the issues involved in this tendency from your past is an important area in which to become more aware.

In relation to the repairing of trust, generally speaking, when there is a breach of trust in a relationship, there needs to be an effort to create a new foundation of trust through humility, remorse, and through creating a new foundation within yourself that addresses these motivational issues.

Be courageous, dear one, in looking at your own inner workings so that even if this past action cannot be met by forgiveness, similar actions will not hinder you in the future from having the kind of intimate, loving relationships that you would like. In your pursuit of purity and a purer motivation within yourself, all the forces of light and love are aligned with you. Blessings - Julie Redstone