I have been married for nine and half years now. At that time my husband was economically not sound. After I learnt Reiki I tried to help him in every way praying to solve his each and every problem. At the times Of crisis I even prayed wishing that he be given my share of goodluck. Also he was very hardworking. Now he is a very successful man. But now in the changing times I am in need of a job. But whenever I wish for a job for myself, he gets a job offer. This has been going on for last two years. How do I separate my future from his. Please suggest. - Sushmita

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Dear One,

Learning and healing which are the true meaning of the word 'karma' do not operate through luck but through the creation of circumstances that will shift the consciousness of each soul.

You perceive you and your husband to be intertwined and so you are, but not in terms of the reality of sharing one success path so that some opportunity either comes to you or comes to him. The intertwining is more of a mutual dependency from which each of you has received different things. This dependency has also been part of a healing process which has been needed so that both of you could learn more to stand on your own.

For the last two years, you are seeing a shift in the karmic balance, with an accompanying shift in the dependency issues. Your self is now needing to be redirected away from the need to serve your husband and fulfill his needs to realizing your own self. The present circumstances are requiring you to focus more on yourself and to build a stronger foundation of independence. While it is true that your husband, in the past, received more of your visible help, it is also true that your identity as 'the one who is needed' has been with you for a long time and it is this that is being adjusted now.

Motives are complex, dear one, and this is not to suggest that true motives of love and a desire to help have not been a significant part of your relationship. They have. But these motives can also be mixed with an identity issue which causes your own identity to be too firmly wedded to another and to what you can do for another.

Focus on the present. Focus on creating circumstances of health and wellbeing for yourself, both outer and inner. The karmic separation is proceeding in the way that it needs to and your understanding of the need for a more clearly defined boundary of self will help the matter greatly.

Blessings - Julie Redstone