I've feeling very confused at present, there are so many challenges in my life. Whilst I understand and recognise that they are opportunities for growth. I am finding it difficult to be calmly assertive.

I feel like a little crab the more I move forward there seems to be a circumstance pulling me back.

I have so many emotions within me and feel lost. The key situaiton is my brother is an alcholic and lives with my mum and dad. He became viloent and hit my mum, I spoke to him a few minutes ago and he choose to end the conversation. Mum has parkinsons and has come with dad to spend some chill time with me and my family Whilst I can empathise with the blocks he has I cannot accept viloence.

I feel that I have let him down although I send him love and tell him I love him regularly. I trust there is a lesson for me to learn but I am finding it diffiuclt to let go of this situaiton and it is having an impact on all other areas of my life.

I do undestand but don;t know what action to take. I feel so guilty and it is bringing up child hood memories that I thought I had addressed. Iknow god doesn't send us any challenges that we cannot handle. Thank you for your guidance. -- Fiona

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Dear One,

There are many situations in life where action may need to be taken in order to prevent hurt or harm from happening to oneself or another. Sometimes this action involves a verbal communication. Sometimes it involves something more than that. To be afraid of taking action is a sign of one's own interior difficulty in finding the place within upon which one can take a stand. The outer sense of right action must correspond to an inner sense of rightness.

When guilt or shame overlay a relationship, often this sense of inner rightness becomes confused, hidden behind other motives of fear, rejection, judgment, withdrawal, or anger. Then, what is needed is a retreat to a quiet place within so that the needed 'sense of rightness' can be discovered again. This spiritual and emotional centering is essential in order to know what to do in difficult situations, for there is rarely only one answer. The answer for you, dearest one, must correspond to what your own deepest heart tells you is right in this situation with your family, and you must see clearly what the obstacles are that are preventing you from doing or saying what is right.

What is past, is past, but relationships are always evolving and presenting new opportunities for healing. And so if you take the time to center yourself in a deeper way, you will be able to find the point of healing within you that will guide you to the precise action or words to use with your brother. More importantly, you need to reclaim your capacity to know how you feel, instead of being tossed in the waves of turbulent emotion. For these are intense times that we live in, with much being purified on the emotional level, and it requires repeated anchoring in inner truth to get through them.

Try to develop a practice of centering yourself in light and truth - the Practice of Alignment may help you - and your own inner strength will develop and grow to help you through these difficulties. Blessings dear one. May the light of truth shine within you. Julie