Dear Julie,

I've recently been estranged from my daughter and grandchildren who I love and adore. I really don't know why my daughter did this. She will not take my calls so I can't ask her. I've searched my mind over and over to think of something I might have done to bring this on but cannot for the life of me come up with anything. She's been going through a bad time for the past several months and when I did talk to her, I just tried to comfort her and give her support. I also sent money so I knew they would have food. Please help me understand the deeper meaning to this. Many blessings and thank you, Sue

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Dear One,

Sometimes relationships get interrupted due to an internal process in one or the other of the participants that is actually a movement forward in the area of healing, although it may not look that way on the outside. The internal process creating the rupture is often based on the greater recognition and awakening of feelings that have lain dormant for some time, and when these are given permission to come into consciousness, a period of time may go by before one so engaged knows what to do with the newly awakened feelings and perceptions.

Often, the issues in need of healing are not of the present but of the past, and so in a situation where a relationship has become disrupted for no apparent reason, there may, indeed, be no present reason for its actual disruption, but perceived past reasons, feelings, and understandings that are now playing a more active role in that person's conscioiusness.

Of course it is natural for one on the outside of such a process to feel wounded or dismayed by the sudden withdrawal of a friend, family member, or loved one, but it is necessary under such circumstances to trust the process of inner unfoldment taking place, and to wait in a place of love and trust. The challenge to the ego is to avoid feeling hurt, blaming, or to blame while waiting, and to be able to both hold on to the love that is, and has been, present, while letting events take their own course.

While overtures and questions to see what the disruptive problem might be are ways of increasing communication and are generally a good thing so that a new level of understanding may be reached, when such efforts and communications are met with rejection, it is best to wait and to pray for the necesary healing to take place both in the loved one and in oneself. Although the significant areas in need of healing in oneself may not be apparent in one's own consciousness, prayer to know more concerning any contributing factors is always a good idea.

Ask God to help heal this relationship, beloved one, and wait in trust and love for things to unfold further, and know that this giving space to what needs to happen will create the most conducive environment in which change of a positive nature can occur. Blessings and love, Julie